inspiration, mental health, parenting, prayers, religion

Finding My Way out of Darkness

Through my life I have struggled with anxiety and depression.  When I was younger there were some dark times that I fought through.  Watching Oprah’s TV show introduced me to self-help and I began keeping a quote book and encouraging things.  I also relied on prayer to pull me out.

When I became a mom I ended up having to have a c-section and I was trying to breastfeed.  A lack of sleep became a given and it changed me.  I was sad most of the time and just felt like a different person.  I tried to put on the happy face around others but when alone there was no smiling at all.  When my husband and I were considering having another child I told him I had to seek counseling or I might not survive another child.  This counselor seemed to be making things worse.  She agreed with all my struggles and wanted me to just change situations I was in when I was not capable of changing them.  I ended up once again turning to God and positive quotes.  I also joined a woman’s group at my church.  I found may way through again.

Through the years I have had my ups and downs and when I am down I have tried counseling but recently our insurance changed and counseling was going to cost us a pretty penny.  So less than a year ago I felt myself falling deep into my dark hole.  My in-laws attend a church that offers counseling for just a donation.  I looked to the Catholic Church to help.  Where I was living free counseling would be out of the question.  It was going to cost close to $125 an hour.  Are you serious?  How are people able to afford this?This made me mad and sad.  How can my religion not help me?  My local priest was willing to meet with me but I didn’t want to burden him even though he said I wasn’t a burden at all and he was there for me.

I began praying and asking God to lead me where he wanted me to be.  Please help me find a way out of this.  I want to be better for my children.  My older brother gave me the gift of meditation for Christmas and I found myself doing that daily.  It really got me into an almost trans-like state.  This led me to reaching out to a friend of mine who has found peace and relief through Reiki.  A few years ago when she just began training, she practiced on me and I remember having the same calming feeling I had when I meditated.  I asked her if she would train me and thanks to her help I became certified in Reiki level I.

During this time I also went on a woman’s retreat and was introduced to Tai Chi.  Tai chi is like meditative movement.  This seemed to fit together with everything else I was learning and was similar, yet different tools I could use to help me.

God led me to these tools to help me and they were working.  I also remembered I use to love using essential oils to help me and the kids.  So I dug out my oils and began using them.  Peace was finding it’s way back into my life.  God has answered my prayers in a way that I didn’t expect but was grateful for.

So as I continue to learn more about these tools I am hoping that not only will I help myself but I can help others in similar situations find tools they can empower themselves with.  Stay tuned for future post on these different tools/blessings.

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I’m back

So I have been on a bit of a hiatus.  I like to write when something moves me and for the past two years politics and our country have been at the forefront of my thoughts.  I was advised by someone dear to me to keep politics separate from my posts but I honestly can’t.

There are very few people I can actually talk to about my thoughts.  This site is me, my thoughts and my computer.  I share my views.  People can take what they want and leave what they don’t.  So I figure this is a great place to just share my thoughts.

I’ve said in the past my thoughts are just that mine.  They are not right or wrong but my ideas or views.  I am not trying to push them on anyone.  I just hope maybe it will open at least one person’s thoughts or views to a possible new way.

Feels so good to be back 🙂

 

 

 

 

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Sleep With Me Podcast

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Growing up, my older brother and I were not very close.  We did not start becoming close until we were both in college.  When we did start becoming closer I realized my brother and I faced some of the same struggles in life.  What to do with the rest of our lives?  We had both been in more than one career field and we still were not sure.

Then we had children.  Parenting can be a real challenge but I think we were both doing a pretty good job at it.  Our kids got to see each other about once a year in the summer. During that time my big brother would do his best and see to it that I got some kind of break.  (I had two boys close in age and then added a little girl.  My hands were full.)

He often read them stories or told them stories at nap time or bedtime and he actually got them to sleep.  I was amazed.  In the summer they never wanted to nap or go to bed for me.  He had a gift but at the time I do not know if I or any of us realized what a blessing his gift really was.

Now jump ahead a few years.  I turned to him because I wanted to create a webpage where I could share what I was learning as a new mom and as a Catholic mom.  I wanted my big brother’s thoughts.  It turned out that during that time he had already created his Sleep With Me Podcast but it was still a hidden gem to most.  He was doing it because he wanted to and not to win anyone’s approval.  Good for you big brother!

I started listening to it here and there.  As a mom sometimes shutting my brain off and getting to sleep could be a real challenge.  I often would listen to the Rosary and sometimes I still do.  Yet, now I have my big brother.

I am a person all about bonding with loved ones.  It has always been my thing.  I feel like I don’t get the opportunity to bond with my siblings as much as I would like and often wished that could be different.  However, it is what it is.  Yet, now I feel like I am bonding more with my oldest brother.  At night when I am stressed and cannot get to sleep I turn to him.  He may not know it but I do.  I listen to him as if he is sitting next to me trying to help me and it WORKS.  I am a sleep before I even know it.

After having my first child I learned that I am a person who needs sleep.  A lack of sleep causes me to stop functioning like a normal person and I slowly start losing it.  When I think I will not get enough sleep I begin to worry because I do not want to lose it.  When this starts to happen I just say a prayer and listen to the podcast.

My brother has a gift.  A gift that he loves so very much.  A gift that he excels in.  If you are like me and you toss and turn at night, I highly recommend you give this a shot.  You can join me and the thousands of people out there who are put to bed by my big brother. Heck you might even hear a story with me in it 🙂

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The Beauty of a Butterfly

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I love butterflies but the reason why might surprise you.  Growing up I always saw myself as having no purpose in life and I often felt ugly.  When I wasn’t feeling ugly about my physical looks I felt ugly on the inside.  I never thought I would be good enough.  I thought about how life would be without me in it and honestly I thought people would be better off.  I thought God got me wrong.  My parents weren’t expecting to have me, I was born a twin.  I was the unexpected surprise.  So maybe God got it wrong.

One thing is for sure, God never gets it wrong!

As I got older I had to figure a way out of feeling like this.  I watched Oprah a lot and learned about self-help and felt like I could figure it out on my own.

Growing up I heard the story of ‘The Ugly Duckling’ often but that never really connected to me.  Something that did connect for me was butterflies.  I always loved butterflies because of their beauty but then I really thought about where they come from.  I thought of caterpillars as ugly.  To me they were not as beautiful as a butterfly.  So that must be God’s plan for all of us.  We all at one time or another have felt ugly, even if the people around us may not see it.  For some if feels longer than others.  Heck, you may think you are never going to get to that beautiful stage, but guess what?  You are beautiful even if you don’t see it.
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God truly created each and every one of us for a certain reason and to be beautiful.  He wishes we all could see the beauty he sees.

If you are questioning your purpose in life or not loving what you see in the mirror, pray for clarity and don’t give up on life.  God is always there for us even if we don’t realize it. He will help you see the beauty if you let him.  Look at a beautiful butterfly and know that you are just as beautiful for being you.  Or look at the ugly caterpillar and cheer it on to becoming what it is meant to be.  You will get there just like the caterpillar.  Keep your faith.  Keep your hope.  Most importantly keep on loving yourself as you are today.

God help us to see the beauty that you see in each of us.  Please put in our path those who are going to lift us up and not tear us down.  Thank you for each day you give to us and the opportunity it brings.

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Sharing the Christmas Spirit

As Christmas approaches I have created a calendar to teach my children about sharing the true meaning of Christmas.  I want to teach my children to love one another and to take care of fellow humans.

Here is a calendar for the month of December with little things we all can do to help make the world a better place. It all starts at home.

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Admiration for Single Parents

042012_Disney_Channel_Premieres_Animated_Series_GoofTroop_TDIDTo all those single or almost single parents out there; I admire you. I wish I could give you the break you so rightfully deserve.

There have been days, like today, where from the time the kids get up to the time they go to bed it is all on me. They have to be in different places and I have to get them there. I also think they know Daddy isn’t going to be around because man are they acting up.
I keep my cool through most of it but by the time dinner is over (I let them pick the dinner to try to make it special) I am at my wit’s end and barely hanging on. I tell myself just a little longer. I can do this.

It is only one day. By the time they wake up daddy will be back and can help me out again. I am lucky it is only one day. I can’t imagine surviving more than one. Yet, there are moms and dads out there that have to. They have to go day in and day out without the support of their spouse or the other parent. My prayers go out to you all.

So the next time you are on the verge of losing it, wanting to give up or feeling alone, know that prayers are being sent your way. You are not alone. Step back, take 5 deep breaths, say a prayer or go stick your face in a pillow and scream. Whatever will help you get through this moment. You can get through it. Heck, post on here and if I see it or others see it we can cheer you on.

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Simple Living Without The Stuff

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I once heard a story about a lady who only had one box of all her belongings.  I definitely need a lot more than just one box for all my belongings.  What if something ever happened to me?  How hard would it be on my loved ones to clear out all my stuff?  How painful would that be?  Do I truly need or even use all the stuff I own?

I have always known that less stuff leads to less clutter which can lead to less stress. However, in this day in age it is so hard not to get wrapped up with the idea of ‘keeping up with the Jones’.  I sometimes feel like I am being a bad mom if I don’t let my kids have birthday parties with lots of guests and presents or having the coolest, most popular toys.

Is that what life is truly about?  Is it about having the best of the best or the most?  I want my kids to value relationships and time spent with those people.  I want them to have happy memories of their childhood.  That won’t happen with a mom screaming at them all the time to pick up their stuff.  How can I set an example if I have stuff all over the place?  How many casserole dishes does one person need?  I don’t even make casseroles.

So I am slowly making changes.

I am also trying to teach my children how much I do love them and that no object on earth can show them that.  What I can show them is me working on yelling less and spending more time with them.  Having less materialistic stuff and more family time together shows them the love I want them to know.  They will remember the movies we watch together or the games we play instead of stuff all over the place.

How much of what you have do you truly need or love?  Why are you holding on to it? How freeing would it be to let go of one thing at a time?  Let’s share thoughts and ideas with each other.

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