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Technical Difficulties

Thank you to all who have visited my website. I just wanted to let you know that I am working out the glitches in checking out. I believe that PayPal is now working. I hope to be able to add credit card payments to this soon. Please email me with any questions.

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Finding Positivity in the Darkness

In these troubled times why not join me and find ways to turn the darkness into light. To be the change you want for our country and world.

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Part of the script obtained from The School of Positive Transformation. Background music by George-Sundancer from Pixabay.

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Helping Each Other Out

I am a white privileged woman and part of me feels ashamed to write that, but should I be?  My dad grew up in the Bronx by two parents that were far from perfect.  He spent his life working hard to get where he is. and he fought so we could have a good life.  He worked two or three jobs to be able to provide for us and I am truly grateful for that.

My husband has also spent his life working and studying hard so he could provide for us.  He made a list of his goals in life and did everything he could to mark each one off.

Yet, I have also spent my life feeling an ache in my heart for those who were not as fortunate.  For those who do not have the same opportunities are my parents or my husband and I simply because of their skin, religion, gender or sexual orientation.   I have great empathy and compassion for others.  It is easier for me than many, to imagine what life must be like for those less fortunate.

Today I live in a middle-upper class neighborhood with a very poor and underprivileged town next door.  I have a friend who works for the school system there who tells me stories that are absolutely heartbreaking.  She has taken it upon herself more times than not to try and fundraise so she would be able to provide for her students.

This year is like no other and many schools are struggling.  Our schools can provide Chromebooks for ALL students and I am sure 90% of households have internet to do work at home.  Yet less than 2 miles away there are kids who do not have internet, electronics, a parent at home to help them, or even a steady home for that matter.  These kids are turning to gangs and drug dealing instead.  They do not realize that the path they are now on will most likely lead to a life in and out of prison.  It brings tears to my eyes just thinking about it.

I always wonder why we do so much fundraising at our schools when it seems like our kids have everything.  Do they really need another party?  Why can’t schools that are so blessed fundraise for schools who are less fortunate and show our kids how to take care of others?  We do a toy drive near Christmas but why not something for school?

We are weeks away from an election and most politicians are going to make promises to get votes, but do they REALLY care?  Sadly, no.  They are very privileged and care more about their donors then they do the American people.  If we cannot rely on our government to help who can we rely on?

Any chance I get I try to give to those who are in need.  We should all be trying to help out our fellow humans in any way that we can.  It should not matter what color, religion, gender or sexual orientation someone is.  We all deserve a good life.  We need to stop this division, anger, hate and simply try to have a little compassion and love.  Our world will be better if we each do one little act of kindness for someone else.  Love can spread quickly.  We can make our world better by not relying on the media or politicians to tell us what to think or feel.  If we just count our blessings and try to share that with others our world will be better off.

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Struggling to be the Best Mom I Can

Being a parent is the hardest job any of us will ever have.  I struggle at it everyday.  My sole job is being a stay at home mom and the pressure I put on myself is huge.  It is the most important job I will EVER have.  I have to get it right.  What does getting it right mean to me?  Our children are the future of the world and generations to follow.  Therefore, for me raising my children to be Christ like to others, to have happiness and to succeed in whatever they choose to do.  These are challenging job duties and more times than not I feel like I am failing them.

My oldest is questioning his faith so that alone has been a huge weight on me but I have learned so much.  God created my son and entrusted me to raise him.  What an honor.  God knows him inside and out.  My son is so intellectual and has amazed me since he was born.

When he was younger he told me he wanted to be a priest and I had never thought about that before but at that moment I felt like a huge success.  My child might grow up to help others on their religious path and give his life to serving him.  Part of me knew chances were slim that this would happen since he planned on discovering teleportation.  It would be a bit of a challenge to try and do both.

Now fast forward to today.  He no longer wants to be Catholic.  As a cradle Catholic I thought that I would burn in hell for this.  Was it missing mass or not reading the bible enough?  Could it have been the fact that I married a man who is not currently Catholic?  So many thoughts.

Yet, I now realize that God is there for him and God will always be there for him.  My son struggles with the idea of Jesus being both human and God.  How can he be the son of man and God?  He sits at the right hand of God but is God?  These are all valid questions.

I ask him and my husband if they believe Jesus existed.  They both agree that he lived.  Jesus not only lived but he loved others.  He was kind and spread love not hate.  Outcasts were taken care of by him.  No one was ever judge by him and many were forgiven.  He was what we should all strive to be like as humans.  This innocent man was tortured, beaten, and nailed to a cross to die slowly.  Something no one would ever want to endure esp if we hadn’t done anything wrong.  Yet, here is this man and as he dies he asks for those who caused him harm to be forgiven.  

I believe we all have had doubts or questions about what we believe.  It is normal and I support my son on whatever journey he may endure.  I ask God to guide him and hopefully bring him back. 

My husband and son are good people that God created and God will decide their fate.  My Church taught me that if we sin and do not go to confession we will burn but I realize that is not true.  I confess to God on a daily basis for falling short and he loves me and forgives me.  He feels my pain and knows our hearts.  Where any of us go after we die is between us and God.  I will simply continue to pray for us all.  May God guide us and lead us where he wants us to go and that we listen.  That he forgives us for all our imperfections.

Then I think of Mary.  Whether or not Jesus is the son of God or God, this man was on earth and he had a mother.  She raised him and then watched his horrific pain.  That thought and imagine is so hard to imagine. When I struggle I look to her to help me be more like her.

I am far from the perfect mother but I will continue to love my children with all my heart and try to do my best when it comes to them.  They deserve me giving 110% and that is what I strive for.  May God watch over us all, guide and lead us where he wants us to go. 

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I am an Introvert

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This quote or statement really hits home for me. People called me shy, stuck up, antisocial and many other things through the years. Growing up with a small group of friends, I often got overwhelmed at large gatherings.

I grew up in a large family and I had one cousin I clung to at family functions. When alone I would stand off to the side and just observe. I never understood why until recently. I had no clue I was an introvert but now it makes sense and helps me to understand myself a little more.

However, my husband is an extrovert, from a long line of extroverts. He does not understand the different sides of me at all. When he first met me he saw me in action with my close knit group of friends. Around them I was outgoing and social. Then he came to a family wedding with me and the introvert came out full blast. He got confused when all of the sudden I was shy and quiet. This was my family and he was the one who was the life of the party. How could that be? At the time I couldn’t explain it. I thought it was because my family were drinkers and with a dad who no longer drank I felt uncomfortable in those situations.

All my life I have cared for those around me. I have always put others before myself as far back as when I learned to speak. My parents say that when my brother and I were little I would translate for my brother. We are twins. He would scream something out and I would explain what he wanted. I spent my younger years always looking out for those around me and trying to help them. I felt drained, sad and hopeless more times than not. Now I realize it was because I didn’t take the time to take care of myself. It didn’t matter what was going on in my life or how I was feeling. I would find a way to put all my stuff aside to care for those around me.

My husband also doesn’t understand how I will go up to a complete stranger and say something but then say I am an introvert. I have learned to be more extroverted when it is called for. You would never know or most of the time you can’t tell but I quickly get drained and run down after. It has taken us many years to understand why I act the way I do and my husband tries hard to understand. However, I think it is easier for introverts to understand extroverts than for extroverts to understand introverts.

So if you are an extrovert please don’t take offense when we want to stay home or avoid doing certain things. It has nothing to do with you and everything to do with us.

This covid virus has turned so many people’s worlds upside down, yet in the beginning I tended to be the happiest I have been in a long time. Why you ask? For the first time since I got married I had no place to go, no events to attend and my weekends were free. I got to stay in the comfort of my home and I loved it. This did not mean I didn’t love our family or friends. I love them with all my heart. It was just a simple introvert loving her time finally as just an introvert and nothing else. Ahh.

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Change

Are you ready for change? I know I am. So as you all know I have been struggling to decide what to do with myself and my future. I have spent my life being passionate about helping others and that continues to be my goal. Yet, some things have changed. The big change is finding out how as an adult with grown children I am going to help others?

Well through the past few years I have come to learn that I am an empath. What that means for me is I can feel what others are feeling. Not necessarily exactly what you may be feeling but I can connect close enough. When those around me are sad, hurt or angry I can sense that feeling come over me. I want to use that gift to be here to assist you.

I have faced struggles at many different times in my life and I want to be your coach to help you get through those times too. Whether it be taking care of someone you love, being a new parent, raising kids, a teen or anyone for that matter feeling depressed, worthless or anxious, losing a loved one, struggling with an addiction, being over weight or whatever, I am going get you through it.

How am I going to do this? Well I was thinking of making a podcast. I have never done it so it will be an adventure but that will be a free tool people can use. A tool that you can easily access whenever you need to.

I am also training in tools that I can help people in person with, such as; meditation, tai-chi, aromatherapy and reiki.

I hope you will join me on this amazing journey and I hope that this is my way to help those out there who need help and can’t seem to find it.

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Success

I have been struggling with this word for years now. Society makes one believe that your success is based on your worth and what you have. Well if one is not working then you could say they have no success. To be viewed as having no success is not a good feeling at all.

Today’s conversation when with others at gatherings is usually, “So what do you do for a living?” “How does that job pay?” I currently do not have an income therefore I don’t fell like I have much to give to the conversation.

Not having an income does not mean I do not have a job. I have a very challenging job. I am a stay at home mom in more of the traditional view. Again, in today’s society, thanks to many different shows, one could view a stay at home mom as someone who has a nanny, maid, spends their time working out or shopping. I do not fit into that category at all.

I am the one raising my children. They have never been to daycare or had a nanny. Heck, they have barely ever had a babysitter. When they have has a babysitter it is with my in-laws or parents, which I am very grateful for. I am the cook, housekeeper, chauffer, counselor, and whatever else they need. My job is very important, my children. I am the one teaching them morals, values and discipline. I take this job very seriously.

However, my children are all in school now so I have realized I would like to return to the workforce at least part-time. I would not want to work full-time because they still need me. They have the summers off, vacations, sick days and plenty of after school activities. I have asked them if they would be ok with me going to work and they have all said they would rather me be home for them so that is still my main objective.

I have a degree in social work and realized I missed that so I looked into getting a social work job. In NJ you need to be licensed to get a social work job. You have to have your MSW to get a social work license. I have a BSW. I decided to take a MSW class to see if that is something I want to pursue and I realized I do not want to go for my MSW. So now what!!

I am exploring different avenues and trying to find what I enjoy. I am currently learning about aromatherapy. In one of the books I am studying, Business Mastery, by Cherie M Sohnen-Moe, it talks about what success means to each of us. Is it how much we make, how we look or what we own? Is it something to achieve or a way of living?

I realized that success to me is about who I am and who my children are. How my children behave when they are away from me shows how successful I am. They are my true success. My husband tries to remind me of that whenever I am getting down. He tells me what an amazing mom I am and how wonderful our kids are.

So while I may still be in pursuit of a career path, I realize that having a job that pays me money does not mean I have no worth or that I am not successful. I can hold my head high when I am in conversations now about careers and money. At this point I am very successful and no money in the world could buy what I have. I have children who know how to treat others, respect their elders and hopefully be able to live on their own at some point. They have great values and morals.

Your success isn’t in how much money you are making or how high up the ladder you are at a business. It is how you treat those around you. What are you doing to make yourself better? Look inside, now that you have this time and see if you have reached the success of values and morals. If not then get to work!!!

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Finding My Way out of Darkness

Through my life I have struggled with anxiety and depression.  When I was younger there were some dark times that I fought through.  Watching Oprah’s TV show introduced me to self-help and I began keeping a quote book and encouraging things.  I also relied on prayer to pull me out.

When I became a mom I ended up having to have a c-section and I was trying to breastfeed.  A lack of sleep became a given and it changed me.  I was sad most of the time and just felt like a different person.  I tried to put on the happy face around others but when alone there was no smiling at all.  My husband and I wanted to have another child but I told him I needed counseling first.  This counselor seemed to be making things worse.  She agreed with all my struggles and wanted me to just change situations I was in when I was not capable of changing them.  Once again I found myself turning to God and positive quotes.  I also joined a woman’s group at my church.  I found may way through again.

Through the years I have had my ups and downs and when I am down I have tried counseling but recently our insurance changed and counseling was going to cost us a pretty penny.  So less than a year ago I felt myself falling deep into my dark hole.  My in-laws attend a church that offers counseling for just a donation.  I looked to the Catholic Church to help.  Where I was living free counseling would be out of the question.  It was going to cost close to $125 an hour.  Are you serious?  How are people able to afford this?This made me mad and sad.  How can my religion not help me?  My local priest was willing to meet with me but I wanted someone I didn’t know personally.

I began praying and asking God to lead me where he wanted me to be.  Please help me find a way out of this.  I want to be better for my children.  My older brother gave me the gift of meditation for Christmas and I found myself doing that daily.  It really got me into an almost trans-like state.  This led me to reaching out to a friend of mine who has found peace and relief through Reiki.  A few years ago when she just began training, she practiced on me and I remember having the same calming feeling I had when I meditated.  I asked her if she would train me and thanks to her help I became certified in Reiki level I.

During this time I also went on a woman’s retreat and was introduced to Tai Chi.  Tai chi is like meditative movement.  This seemed to fit together with everything else I was learning and was similar, yet different tools I could use to help me.

God led me to these tools to help me and they were working.  I also remembered I use to love using essential oils to help me and the kids.  So I dug out my oils and began using them.  Peace was finding it’s way back into my life.  God has answered my prayers in a way that I didn’t expect but was grateful for.

So as I continue to learn more about these tools I am hoping that not only will I help myself but I can help others in similar situations find tools they can empower themselves with.  Stay tuned for future post on these different tools/blessings.

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I’m back

So I have been on a bit of a hiatus.  I like to write when something moves me and for the past two years politics and our country have been at the forefront of my thoughts.  I was advised by someone dear to me to keep politics separate from my posts but I honestly can’t.

There are very few people I can actually talk to about my thoughts.  This site is me, my thoughts and my computer.  I share my views.  People can take what they want and leave what they don’t.  So I figure this is a great place to just share my thoughts.

I’ve said in the past my thoughts are just that mine.  They are not right or wrong but my ideas or views.  I am not trying to push them on anyone.  I just hope maybe it will open at least one person’s thoughts or views to a possible new way.

Feels so good to be back 🙂

 

 

 

 

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Sleep With Me Podcast

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Growing up, my older brother and I were not very close.  We did not start becoming close until we were both in college.  When we did start becoming closer I realized my brother and I faced some of the same struggles in life.  What to do with the rest of our lives?  We had both been in more than one career field and we still were not sure.

Then we had children.  Parenting can be a real challenge but I think we were both doing a pretty good job at it.  Our kids got to see each other about once a year in the summer. During that time my big brother would do his best and see to it that I got some kind of break.  (I had two boys close in age and then added a little girl.  My hands were full.)

He often read them stories or told them stories at nap time or bedtime and he actually got them to sleep.  I was amazed.  In the summer they never wanted to nap or go to bed for me.  He had a gift but at the time I do not know if I or any of us realized what a blessing his gift really was.

Now jump ahead a few years.  I turned to him because I wanted to create a webpage where I could share what I was learning as a new mom and as a Catholic mom.  I wanted my big brother’s thoughts.  It turned out that during that time he had already created his Sleep With Me Podcast but it was still a hidden gem to most.  He was doing it because he wanted to and not to win anyone’s approval.  Good for you big brother!

I started listening to it here and there.  As a mom sometimes shutting my brain off and getting to sleep could be a real challenge.  I often would listen to the Rosary and sometimes I still do.  Yet, now I have my big brother.

I am a person all about bonding with loved ones.  It has always been my thing.  I feel like I don’t get the opportunity to bond with my siblings as much as I would like and often wished that could be different.  However, it is what it is.  Yet, now I feel like I am bonding more with my oldest brother.  At night when I am stressed and cannot get to sleep I turn to him.  He may not know it but I do.  I listen to him as if he is sitting next to me trying to help me and it WORKS.  I am a sleep before I even know it.

After having my first child I learned that I am a person who needs sleep.  A lack of sleep causes me to stop functioning like a normal person and I slowly start losing it.  When I think I will not get enough sleep I begin to worry because I do not want to lose it.  When this starts to happen I just say a prayer and listen to the podcast.

My brother has a gift.  A gift that he loves so very much.  A gift that he excels in.  If you are like me and you toss and turn at night, I highly recommend you give this a shot.  You can join me and the thousands of people out there who are put to bed by my big brother. Heck you might even hear a story with me in it 🙂

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