I have been struggling with this word for years now. Society makes one believe that your success is based on your worth and what you have. Well if one is not working then you could say they have no success. To be viewed as having no success is not a good feeling at all.
Today’s conversation when with others at gatherings is usually, “So what do you do for a living?” “How does that job pay?” If you are not employed you don’t have much to give to the conversation and for myself it leaves me feeling devalued.
Just because I am not employed does not mean I do not have a job. I have a very challenging job. I am a stay at home mom in more of the traditional view. Again, in today’s society, thanks to many different shows, one could view a stay at home mom as someone who has a nanny, maid, spends their time working out or shopping. I do not fit into that category at all. I am the one raising my children. They have never been to daycare or had a nanny. Heck, they have barely ever had a babysitter. Most of the time when they have, I have been blessed with in-laws and parents who would watch them. I am the cook, housekeeper, chauffer, counselor, and whatever else they need. I have a very important job, my children. I am the one teaching them morals, values and discipline. I take this job very seriously.
However, my children are all in school now so I have realized I would like to return to the workforce at least part-time. I would not want to work full-time because they still need me. They have the summers off, vacations, sick days and plenty of after school activities. I have asked them if they would be ok with me going to work and they have all said they would rather me be home for them so that is still my main objective.
I have a degree in social work and realized I missed that so I looked into getting a social work job. However, in my state you really need to be licensed to get a social work job. To be licensed you have to have your MSW. I have a BSW. After learning this I decided to take a MSW class to see if that is something I want to pursue and I realized I do not want to go for my MSW. So now what!!
I am exploring different avenues and trying to find what I enjoy. I am currently learning about aromatherapy. In one of the books I am studying, Business Mastery, by Cherie M Sohnen-Moe, it talks about what success means to each of us. Is it how much we make, how we look or what we own? Is it something to achieve or a way of living?
When I saw this I realized that success to me is about who I am and who my children are. How my children behave when they are away from me shows how successful I am. They are my true success. My husband tries to remind me of that whenever I am getting down. He tells me what an amazing mom I am and how wonderful our kids are.
So while I may still be in pursuit of a career path, I realize that having a job that pays me money does not mean I have no worth or that I am not successful. I can hold my head high when I am in conversations now about careers and money. At this point I am very successful and no money in the world could buy what I have. I have children who know how to treat others, respect their elders and hopefully be able to live on their own at some point. They have great values and morals.
So anyone who is struggling with being unemployed, retired or even a new stay at home parent, know that your success isn’t in how much money you are making or how high up the ladder you are at a business. It is how you treat those around you. What are you doing to make yourself better? Look inside, now that you have this time and see if you have reached the success of values and morals. If not then get to work!!!
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