inspiration, mental health, parenting

Change

Are you ready for change? I know I am. So as you all know I have been struggling to decide what to do with myself and my future. I have spent my life being passionate about helping others and that continues to be my goal. Yet, some things have changed. The big change is finding out how as an adult with grown children I am going to help others?

Well through the past few years I have come to learn that I am an empath. What that means for me is I can feel what others are feeling. Not necessarily exactly what you may be feeling but I can connect close enough. When those around me are sad, hurt or angry I can sense that feeling come over me. I want to use that gift to be here to assist you.

I have faced struggles at many different times in my life and I want to be your coach to help you get through those times too. Whether it be taking care of someone you love, being a new parent, raising kids, a teen or anyone for that matter feeling depressed, worthless or anxious, losing a loved one, struggling with an addiction, being over weight or whatever, I am going get you through it.

How am I going to do this? Well I was thinking of making a podcast. I have never done it so it will be an adventure but that will be a free tool people can use. A tool that you can easily access whenever you need to.

I am also training in tools that I can help people in person with, such as; meditation, tai-chi, aromatherapy and reiki.

I hope you will join me on this amazing journey and I hope that this is my way to help those out there who need help and can’t seem to find it.

Copyright 2020 Sheila M Scarpulla.  All rights reserved.  No reproduction without written consent.

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inspiration, parenting

Success

I have been struggling with this word for years now. Society makes one believe that your success is based on your worth and what you have. Well if one is not working then you could say they have no success. To be viewed as having no success is not a good feeling at all.

Today’s conversation when with others at gatherings is usually, “So what do you do for a living?” “How does that job pay?” If you are not employed you don’t have much to give to the conversation and for myself it leaves me feeling devalued.

Just because I am not employed does not mean I do not have a job. I have a very challenging job. I am a stay at home mom in more of the traditional view. Again, in today’s society, thanks to many different shows, one could view a stay at home mom as someone who has a nanny, maid, spends their time working out or shopping. I do not fit into that category at all. I am the one raising my children. They have never been to daycare or had a nanny. Heck, they have barely ever had a babysitter. Most of the time when they have, I have been blessed with in-laws and parents who would watch them. I am the cook, housekeeper, chauffer, counselor, and whatever else they need. I have a very important job, my children. I am the one teaching them morals, values and discipline. I take this job very seriously.

However, my children are all in school now so I have realized I would like to return to the workforce at least part-time. I would not want to work full-time because they still need me. They have the summers off, vacations, sick days and plenty of after school activities. I have asked them if they would be ok with me going to work and they have all said they would rather me be home for them so that is still my main objective.

I have a degree in social work and realized I missed that so I looked into getting a social work job. However, in my state you really need to be licensed to get a social work job. To be licensed you have to have your MSW. I have a BSW. After learning this I decided to take a MSW class to see if that is something I want to pursue and I realized I do not want to go for my MSW. So now what!!

I am exploring different avenues and trying to find what I enjoy. I am currently learning about aromatherapy. In one of the books I am studying, Business Mastery, by Cherie M Sohnen-Moe, it talks about what success means to each of us. Is it how much we make, how we look or what we own? Is it something to achieve or a way of living?

When I saw this I realized that success to me is about who I am and who my children are. How my children behave when they are away from me shows how successful I am. They are my true success. My husband tries to remind me of that whenever I am getting down. He tells me what an amazing mom I am and how wonderful our kids are.

So while I may still be in pursuit of a career path, I realize that having a job that pays me money does not mean I have no worth or that I am not successful. I can hold my head high when I am in conversations now about careers and money. At this point I am very successful and no money in the world could buy what I have. I have children who know how to treat others, respect their elders and hopefully be able to live on their own at some point. They have great values and morals.

So anyone who is struggling with being unemployed, retired or even a new stay at home parent, know that your success isn’t in how much money you are making or how high up the ladder you are at a business. It is how you treat those around you. What are you doing to make yourself better? Look inside, now that you have this time and see if you have reached the success of values and morals. If not then get to work!!!

Copyright 2020 Sheila M Scarpulla.  All rights reserved.  No reproduction without written consent.

famous people, movies, parenting, prayers

The Cokeville Miracle

I have been struggling with what to say about the recent avoidable death of George Floyd. I can’t stomach to watch the video of his murder and I am broken hearted for this world. I try to teach my children to love others as themselves and to not judge a person by the outside but how they are on the inside, that is what matters.

I can’t believe that in the year 2020 we are still fighting a race battle. I can’t believe there are people living in fear simply because of the color of their skin. How can that be?

As a mother I think that kids absorb everything that goes on around them and that they learn how to be and act towards others. Not everyone has been blessed by parents like mine who showed love to all those around them and it didn’t matter what color, gender, abilities or disabilities or financial status you have. Now my children also are blessed to be taught that but not everyone is so lucky. I have no clue what kind of upbringing others have had to make them feel the way they feel towards others. I try to teach those I know by my actions and words.

So I have been praying for our country and world and trying to figure out what to say. Then one night I got a recommendation for a movie I might like on Hulu called The Cokeville Miracle. This is about the power of prayer and that hatred will not change anything but prayer can.

An outcry for change has come from so many deaths but George Floyd’s horrible death, on camera has pushed people to their limits. Now we have protests, riots, looting and more deaths. People are filled with hate and anger but where does that get us? No where good.

So if you are feeling anger, hatred, sadness, fear, or anything pray on it. Ask God to help us change, to help us be better. Change apparently will not happen over night or even in a year from now but change can happen one person at a time. Each of us can choose to be better, to act better. Please don’t doubt the power of prayer and try to believe in miracles because prayers do get answered and miracles do happen.

To all those who are hurting right now please know that I am praying for us all and I won’t stop. May God hear our cries, and help make our country and world a better and safer place.

Copyright 2020 Sheila M Scarpulla.  All rights reserved.  No reproduction without written consent.