I grew up believing in Santa, the Tooth Fairy and the Easter Bunny. I remember all the magic of the holidays. Even when I figured out the truth I still went on hoping I was wrong and never letting go of the magic.
It seems that kids these days aren’t getting that. Most of my nieces and nephews already know the truth and it seems many kids in my boys classes don’t believe anymore. My heart is saddened to hear this. Why let the magic and excitement die? Luckily my husband and I are on the same page and will not take that from our kids as long as we can.
Yesterday my oldest child(9) said to me that he was told that Santa wasn’t real. I asked him who told him that and he didn’t want to tell me, so I left it alone. Well he decided to tell me that it was some friends at school. So he came out and just asked if he was real and I said yes. As soon as I said yes I began feeling so horrible for lying to him.
So I began some research into how others have dealt with this. It seemed that the professionals believe that you should tell your child the truth even though it could be hard at first, it’s better not to lie to them. Then there were other responses like, why not follow the child’s lead and see what they say.
When it was bed time that night I sat down to talk to my son about it. I asked him what he thought was true and he said that he thought they were all real because I would never let him have that much candy. I told him about the original ‘Santa Claus’ St. Nick. I gave him a print out all about him and explained what he did. I told him that I felt that if Santa knows you don’t believe in him anymore than he doesn’t need to deliver anymore gifts. You will just get gifts from your family. He told me that his friends parents told him to not look while they were putting presents out. Yet, my son thought those were just presents from them not Santa. I told him maybe parents can deliver them for Santa.
I also explained to him that if he has friends who are picking on him for what he believes in then maybe they aren’t the right friends for him. He should have friends that accept him and what he believes in. We don’t pick on anyone for believing in something different than us. He said that they weren’t picking on him they were just talking about it.
I told him that some parents don’t want to take away from the attention that should be placed on the true meaning of each holiday. They don’t want it all about presents. I want my children to have the beauty of both worlds. They need to know what each holiday is all about and what they can do for others during that time. Yet, I want them to have the excitement, wonder and magic that comes from believing. I want to see the magic in my kids eyes so I will try and keep it going for as long as I can.
The truth is while Santa is not everything that we are taught he is, there is a beautiful spirit during the holidays and that is the magic of ‘Santa’. Many of us get to play the role and it is an awesome one.
I don’t believe that God has a problem with the way we celebrate the holidays. I think he loves to see all the joy and excitement the holidays bring to the children. To hear the laughter out of them. As long as we are not making it all about the materialistic things and we show our children the true meaning.
We have open communication with our children. I know that the day will come when they learn the truth and we will talk about it. We will talk about the beauty of the spirit of the holidays and that the belief in the wonder of the holidays won’t hurt anyone. I will always believe in the magic!
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